One day, my friend told me that look at these girls riding two wheelers', and now look at the boys riding the two wheelers'. Do you see the difference?
I couldn't spot anything, and then, she told me on how girls drive it by looking downwards and not making eye contacts. Whereas, the guys look up straight and even into people's eyes. I laughed at her ludicrous analogy and told her to shut up.
Then, I read an interview of Deepa Narayan, about her book Chup.
90% of Indian women say they dislike their bodies,
98% admit they have been molested, and
95% say they have hidden this fact from their parents.
Here are some excerpts from the text:
◆The words women use to describe themselves are nice, loving, nurturing.
Women also use a lot of negative words, wiz, sacrificing, suffering, not achieving your dreams.
No woman used the word 'leadership'.
On the other hand, men described themselves as fun, adventurous and leaders.
◆ Women were trained to not laugh loudly. Smiling is good, because you're pleasing others, but laughing isn't because it indicates a strong independent self.
In film award functions, you see some women laughing with their head down and mouths covered, but the men will throw their head back and laugh.
◆ When one is trained to please, it become easier to be quiet and let it happen than say no. This makes consent a very complex issue.
◆ Women can express their sexual desire outside their homes, but not in there, this gives rise to a very unequal culture of silence.
Also, remember, the are only two words:
●Rape
●Sex
Non-consensual sex is rape, as you haven't asked for consent, and sex is by consent only, so it's consensual sex.
Lastly, whenever you want to know who is more adjustable, walk in a narrow lane and make sure someone is coming from the other side, now, in order to avoid collision the person who stops and turns first, is more adjustable, and according to statistics, it's women, here, too.
